My dad, bless his heart, was a great man and a passionate Norwegian. He didn’t speak English until he was 15, and always held on to his Norwegianisms. He would say things like:
- I’ll have another piece of pie just. (Translation: I’ll have just one more piece of pie)
- Give me a pants (Translation: Hand me that pair of pants please)
- Take and give me that plier (Always with the ‘take and’ preceding a request)
And others. Endearing really. And he had very little modern sense of humor.
So, while I was a teenager watching SCTV and Saturday Night Live, he was more into the knock knock line of jokes. Which actually he would never have had any interest in either. He was far too busy to be concerned with humor.
That all changed when he brought home a record called “I Yust Go Nuts at Christmas” with Yogi Yorgesson. This is a collection of 3-minute songs, all beginning with an accordion run up and ending with one going down, featuring Yorgesson singing and narrating in a thick Scandinavian accent.
This corny record slayed dad dead. He was beside himself, helpless with mirth.
To put it mildly, it didn’t hit the mainstream.
So, on Sunday when our pastor referred to it (thanks Mark!) my jaw dropped. That someone else on earth knows “I Yust Go Nuts at Christmas” was amazing to me.
Anyway, the title song talks about how Christmas is filled with conflict. Here’s a taste:
“After dinner my aunt and my wife’s uncle Louie
Get into an argument, they’re awful screwy
Then all my wife’s family say Louie is right
And my goofy relations they yoin in the fight…”
So, how about you? Did you experience any conflict this Christmas season? Locked up in a house together, not allowed to see friends and relatives?
Of course you did! You’re human, as are all of your close people, so conflict is just part of the package.
So, today I want to give you a little insight on DISC Personalities™ that you won’t find in my course, or any other printed material on the website.
Here’s a chart briefly describing what engages, and what alienates each of the personality types:
- Solving problems
- Lack of focus
- Trying new things/spontaneity
- Someone saying ‘No’
- Too much structure
- Meaningful conversations
- Harsh demands
- Detailed plans
- Time pressure
Are you alienating the C’s in your life by putting them under time pressure or not giving them enough quiet/recharge time? Are you being unnecessarily harsh with your S’s? Are you refusing to engage in spontaneous events with your I’s? Or not being fully forthright and honest with your D’s?Ask yourself how you could be more effective with the person in question, and how you’re contributing to the conflict unnecessarily.https://gettingpeopleright.com/disc-personalities-assessment/If you don’t know what these categories mean, you can take my free DISC Personalities™ Assessment here:
You can download a free, one page cheat sheet on DISC Personalities™ here:
Read the chart, share it with someone you love, and talk about how to have a better, healthier, relationship!
And remember in this time of New Year’s resolutions where EVERYTHING! MUST! CHANGE! ALL! AT! ONCE!
Getting ahead is about getting started!
Trevor Throness is a speaker, consultant, and author of “The Power of People Skills.” He is also co-founder and senior instructor at gettingpeopleright.com https://gettingpeopleright.com/
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